Even though I have been witness to relationships that display this dynamic, I always thought the men who put up with that type of woman had deep emotional issues. Friends say no, all men love it when women are bitchy. "Be mean, and they'll want you. Be nice and they could care less."
So according to that line of thought, a man really likes a woman who isn't nice to his friends. A woman who tells him what to do, and how and when to do it. A woman who demands all his attention go to her, and no one else, not even members of his family. A woman that wants to control what he does, where he goes, who he sees. A woman who uses sex as a manipulative tool to get what she wants. A woman who says "If you {insert here}, you must not love me".
Why would a man find this appealing? Is it because it's a constant challenge, and that's exciting? I get that it could be an initial turn on, but I think they would tire of that nonsense really fast.
I actually asked a random man if he thought this was a valid theory, and he said "No, not really." I was a little stumped by the "not really" qualifier. He meant at first, if women are a little bit of a bitch, it's the elusiveness that makes them want to go after her, but continual bitchiness is not what men really want in the end. They want a woman who is kind, and sweet, and most of all fun to be around. Does the type of woman I described above sound fun? Not so much.
Everyone I've talked to about this issue has different views on the answer. Some think it's absolutely true, some think it's only a certain type, and then there are the women like me who don't buy it.
I'd love to know more opinions from men on the subject, since I've heard quite a few from women. I guess I'm looking for validation that it really isn't the case.
Because if it is, I'm kinda screwed.
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